You ever have a conversation with somebody, you were trying to address something important to you. You feel like you were heard. And then, after a couple of hours or days the person you were talking to does something that goes against what you were talking about. As if they didn't even bother listening to you in the first place?
You go to confront them and they go "what are you talking about?"
Or maybe, "oh, that's what you were talking about?"
How about everyone's favorite, "that's what you meant???"
There's a bunch of other ones out there.
"you sure that's what you meant?"
"I don't know what you're talking about."
My personal favorite goes something like "I know what you said, and i understood it completely, but i told you then i was probably gonna do it regardless." Because at least then they can't be mad.
People suck ass at communicating, on both ends of the field. Nobody knows how to speak their mind in a way that can get through to people. And nobody knows how to fucking listen to people when they speak.
At best we hear, but don't listen.
We talk noise, instead of music.
They aren't listening to understand, they're listening to reply.
People love to cut other people off in he middle of a group conversation, either because they think what they have to say is more important or they just don't like or value the current speaker's content.
Some humans are terrible at recounting facts and events. Its been scientifically proven that when people tell stories about themselves, they always blur facts in a way that makes THEM look like the king, like they are the good guy, or the funny guy, or the winner.
And they don't shut up about it! they won't accept corrections or even bother conceiving the idea that they're wrong about certain events in their story. You gotta love their excuses.
"That's how I remember it."
"Shut up! You don't know what you're talking about."
"You're gonna tell the story wrong." No, i'm gonna tell the story RIGHT, and you don't want that.
Miscommunication between the sexes is funny as fuck to witness. More often than not it's seen as the guys fault. "He doesn't want to listen to me."
You couldn't tell that halfway though the damn convo?!?!?!
More than half of communication is non-verbal, and science has shown that women are tremendously better at reading body language compared to men. And you couldn't see that he wasn't picking up what you're putting down?
You couldn't tell the conversation was going nowhere?
You couldn't see the signs that he was getting annoyed/confused/mad/upset/etc?
You probably did, but you didn't want to put in the effort to change how you wanted to communicate you feelings or concerns.
Regardless of gender, speakers never accept fault in miscommunication. It's always the listeners fault apparently.
Accept fault damn it. Don't just expect the person you're talking to to listen better.
That's just being lazy.
Talk better, don't talk more. Better yet, talk less. Most of what you say is probably useless.
You probably block out half the shit people spew out. I know i do, or i use to.
It's hard to figure out which one people are worse at, Talking or listening.
Probably listening, people don't care to listen. More accurate, they only listen to what they want to hear.
Some of y'all are probably reading this and might feel attacked.
That's good, get offended, do something about it!
Hahahahahahaha, we both know you aren't gonna do anything about it. you'll think about it for a few minutes and then forget about it because you think it doesn't apply to you.
Because you're so fucking special.
I like people who repeatedly forget what i said or keep interrupting me. It lets me fuck with their memory and insult them without the worry about them remembering what i said, because they didn't want to hear me.
More often than not i actually do listen, i do understand.
I just don't really care. And i try make it clear that i'm gonna do what i want regardless.
But you won't listen.