Who we are
We live in a world where our identity is no longer about who we are but about what we possess, a society where having surpasses by far being. We tend to change or hide our identity to become someone else, that fits better, someone that we think will have a better chance to be noticed and accepted.
We feel defined by the job we do, the power we have, the money we earn, the phone we use, the car we drive, the house we live in and even the body we own. Some of us even lose themselves to the point of only existing through those material things, put as values by society. But what happens if you lose your job? Earn less money? Have to sell your fancy car, live in a smaller house or apartment? Or what will happen when you’ll get older and older, losing what made you a beautifully made person? Would you become suddenly someone else? Would you feel changed? If so then you shouldn’t, because what defines us is inside ourselves not on the outside, even if it concerns our body itself. Being someone respectful, trustworthy, reliable, honest, caring, selfish, impulsive, lazy, greedy, arrogant, no matter good or bad, those are the things making us who we are, and those things belong to the being not the having.
And yes what we possess, what we have accomplished can be a reflection of our being, but just as the reflection in the mirror isn’t us, what we have isn’t who we are. Someone good looking with a good job, earning good money, having power isn’t necessarily someone good, honest, intelligent and hard worker, just as someone struggling to survive, even breaking the law to do so isn’t necessarily bad, dumb and lazy. We have to stop putting values where they shouldn’t be and put them where they really matter, centered on what makes us human. Because it does not help us to accept who we are, it does not help the world to accept who are, forces us to reflect a false image and makes us live hidden when it feels so liberating to be and act as we truly would.
So you can chase whatever you want, accomplish whatever you desire, but do it because your true self wants it, not because society demands it. Let it be the product of who you are without being what you have to be. Become who you are meant to be and don’t be enslaved to the reflection you see in the mirror.