Relationships are tricky
Relationships are tricky, complex and unpredictable. It is not the dream we exactly weave around while fantasizing the ideal life in the daytime. Something sometimes that is good for you may not be good for the other person. Something sometimes that's right for one may be utterly wrong of the other. Something that works for you sometimes can be a turn off for the other. Then how essentially is it said that relationship is one of the most beautiful thing in the world?
The beauty lies in the word itself; RELATION. The innate urge of the person to have a grit and readiness to walk all the way till the end regardless of the ups and downs that one experiences for and with the other person.
The foundation for this is to be laid with four aspects firmly; honesty, transparency and ability to accommodate leading to the last intricate aspect i.e. trust.
Life knocks at the door the moment the couple in relationship is at the onset of the journey. Which begins from the things taking place between them. To getting to know the other person, and in that process, align one's likes, dislikes, tastes, apprehensions, fears insecurities, standoff, agonies and all the possible feelings, thoughts and acts.
Like the sculpting of a smooth delicate and beautiful artifacts, the couple tries to take care of the expressions and the words along with the manner in which they are conveyed not only to have a constructive cohesive potential but also strengthen it while in progress.
Having taken all the considerations, the external factors, the ancillary actors, untoward situations, and unwarranted pasts may meddle to peddle the hindrance of the noble creation.
The probable solutions apart from pragmatic and logical resolute of obstacle; there is a just need of acceptance of the things which can't be done anything with. Many a times, a person acts as a mirror to the other and compel to revisit, rethink, reinstate, amend and at times abstain a few things. In the cleansing and retrospection, the ego may bear a brunt, experience friction, and at times take a toll in a way it hasn't ever before.
Things take numerous twists and turns based on the make up of the person having dispositions while being brought up and the experiences which the person learns from.
Our habits and lifestyle is next in turn along with the work one does. To get to know the nuances and to develop understanding and tolerance by creation of space and patience usually works here.
After the inanimate things come the significant others; kin and kith & the close ones who are a obligatory set of people one needs to deal with additionally. Gelling with them, rebalancing them in lives and determining and maintaining a healthy distance is the key to manage them.
The common factors thus, which can at least be considered for the progress, concretion and stabilization of the relationship can be understood, emphasized and kept in mind as trust, honesty, transparency, retrospection, alignment, cohesion, patience, understanding and acceptance with a flat of assertive approach to put words forth in right manner to make realize the things which don't work.
Many underestimate the importance and the power of communication in this, which in fact plays the most crucial role remarkably not only in this but any human relation; be it personal, professional or social. The apt expression, with tone, words and intent along with the stars element as the listening ability should be promptly and carefully used as it may act against one given the unfavorable situation or little glitch in any of the abovementioned elements. The act of letting go being the last but mammoth and perseverance demanding element should always be carried up the sleeve as trump card regardless of the weight and the burden of the emotion to be quarantined in it.
Speaking of relationship and trying to condense it on a piece of paper is like trying to grip and cage air, the subjective nature it has.
After all any relation alike any life, botanical as a plant or zoological as animal has to be nurtured, nourished and garnered.