Advice to my 11 year old self and every other 11 year old
Dear Cara (and every other 11 year old),
Here’s my advice: don’t stop loving things you love in order to appear cooler. Don’t like the things everyone else likes, just for the sake of liking it.
Hormones are a bitch right now. Everyone’s got crazy hormone syndrome and will until Freshman year.
Bullying of any kind is wrong. Cyber or in person bullying. Stand up to bullies, even if you don’t know the kid being bullied.
Don’t grow up too fast. You don’t have to stop playing with Polly Pockets and Barbies or GI Joe’s just because you’re in middle school, no matter what people say. Keep watching Disney movies if you want to. Many adults love them just as much as when they were your age.
Don’t let puberty make you feel uncomfortable. It happens to everyone. It’s okay to talk about your period. It shouldn’t be a taboo subject. Half of the population has one.
Write a bucket list now. Explore. Travel. You’re at an age where you’ll remember your adventures for a life time.
Save money. It’s never too early to start. Adulthood is expensive AF. It seems cool now, but not really.
Study hard. Find what you’re passionate about and go to college/university for it. Trade schools are not bad. In fact, often times, intro level jobs are paid more from a trade school than a regular college or university. Don’t stress about college yet. You’ve got plenty of time still.
Pay attention to your surroundings. Don’t stare at your phone in public too long. If you take the bus, keep a lookout for older folks and pregnant women and give up your seat. You would be surprised at how many adults don’t! If you see someone struggling with too many shopping bags or with a door, help them.
Be kind to everyone, no matter where they are from, their skin color, their religion or disability. Kindness is becoming a lost art.
Speaking of lost arts, so is chivalry and common sense.
It’s okay to do household chores. No, you are not Cinderella and your parents aren’t evil for making you turn off Sims and take out the garbage or clean the bathroom.
Last but not least, learn to be the best person you can be. Your quirks and flaws are not bad things. They help make you, you. Embrace yourself. Love yourself. Don’t read fashion magazines. 99% of the people in them are photoshopped anyway.