The fault in our bollywood love
I'm a typical movie buff and i honestly love movies, specially bollywood movies. As a hopeless romantic person, how raj loves simran or anjali loves rahul or naina loves bunny intrigues me, it makes me believe in love,the forever kind
But is it as magical as it seems like in movies?
If you actually think about it, bollywood's idea of love looks good only in fantasies.
Movies like yeh jawani hai deewani (a movie i really love) makes every naina out there thing that they can change a flirt like bunny. When good girls like naina fall for guys like bunny, they expect that the boy would change for her and actually expect a happy ending. If this doesn't happen, the girl would start to doubt her own power to impact somebody, doubt her own self for not being good enough to make that bad boy fall in love with her which is totally untrue
Nobody can change such guys, no matter how goood you are and how much you do for them, they'll abandon you while you dream of your opposite attracts fantasy.
Movies like kuch kuch hota hai makes it sound right that a girl abandoned her fiance for the guy she once loved in college, a guy who wouldn't give two fucks about her when she was a tomboy and as soon as she turns into this gorgeous lady, he magically falls in love with her. This is wrong on so many levels.
Then there comes movies like ranjhana, a movie i love from all of my heart, specially the acting. Loving someone and not getting it back breaks a person but since when did that become the centre of our universe. In a generation of millions of heartbreaks, the idea of giving up your life for somebody else doesn't seem valid to me. It's very sad but at the same time that is not justified, i mean can some movie please show that people can actually move on and be happy without their so called first love. Then comes the most horrifying movie of all, ae dil hai mushkil. It makes you want strangle yourself. It's wrong on so many points
First of all, it makes the concept of having a rebound so normal. Like it's normal to break somebody's heart just because somebody broke yours. It makes you want to give up on the idea of moving on, i mean one needs to accept the reality and not go back to someone again and again and try to make them fall in love with yourself. There are millions of movies which makes the so called heroin or hero lose their self because they didn't get their love of the lives. I feel, romance is amaazing, love is phenomenal but there's so much more to life than love. They should make more movies like queen, or tamasha which makes one self actualize and actually think over stuff, rather than the same old plots making all of us doubt ourselves for not having a perfect fairy tale love stories.
Real life love is more complex , sometimes it's one sided, sometimes it's temporary, sometimes it's toxic. It has it's dark and ugly sides. For our own selves we should know when to turn the page, because no prince charming is going to come to rescue you. You have to save your own self and not look back at times. Maybe love is out there, waiting for you on an unexpected path. Let's not believe the hoax idea of one dimensional love bollywood shows.
Lets fall in love with ourselves, our friends, family, places and the small little things first and let your forever person find you on their own :') it's not always consistent or flawless, but it's real and worth it