Mature calm and kind?
You are wine!
Matured the better, but why? As a resemblance of life, wine gets better with time. How do I identify with wine? Well somehow I feel I have grown out of negativity last year. Capable of completely ignoring it in most forms. Learnt ways to crawl back out of it. That's the true strength of maturity and change. Maturity is in understanding that if a person if trying to pull you down, he is getting great amount of satisfaction in pulling you down. This does not indicate how much he matters to you. It indicates how much you matter to that person. It's so important for him to feel that you are below him. Why? It's insecurity or plain Narscsissm.
For example, Narscsitic people have a need to feel above all. And when they know they aren't they try to bring the ones they think have capacity to be above them, below. Pointing constant flaws, mocking people who do not I have the same ideals as they do and making others feel inferior, is something by which they feel superior, proud and exceptionally happy. So break down these actions. See what the other person is doing to you and instead of reacting think why. So what should you do when things like dis happen? Just leave the person to it! No I'm not asking you to silence down or try to a victim. Just be a happier person. Make your point. Don't bend down to shit. But it's not ur responsibility to correct that person. Also remember that making you feel pathetic is that sadist's only mojo in life! Let him have it sometimes especially if it's a person you also happen to care about. Remember, not to change yourself just for the purpose of reacting. It will make you the person you are not, and will definitely regret for the things "you" said. Try to spread love and happiness, it's what makes your day better and it's what they need. Bitter to bitter is just more bitter. Save your energy for more productive things. Be matured, calm and kind! Be wine.