Before I begin, I believe you would have guessed by now that the topic is on relationships. And I have never experienced it but it's just my take on love.
Love, I feel today is very insecure. I feel there should be some love insurance policy now just like all the other policies. It makes space for itself in someone's heart (very frequently) but there is no surety that it will stay there forever. Hence, the policy idea. But in true sense I do feel that love is in the air(not in the original context), but yes people of all age groups are in some kind of relationship which even they can't define. Not just the groups of people falling in love has changed with time but a lot of aspects of love has also changed. The best way I can compare it is by quoting the exemplary love stories like Heer-Ranjha, Romeo-Juliet, Mirja- Saahib and today's Facebook love. Those were the iconic legendary stories and now its just short lived. Even today we go back to these legacies to express true emotions for love or quote any undying story. Why don't we have such stories now? What was so legendary in their love stories that we lack today?
The answer I found to my question is that the root difference lies in the first step of falling in love. Today love at first sight has been replaced with love at Facebook. Otherwise why would a giant social networking site introduce a status like 'In a relationship but its complicated'. This gives rise to complexities. The smallest could be calling 5 times a day or else face a breakup. Or for some it could be not accepting the partners conservative or religious families. If you haven't been through such a phase like me I would say lucky you.
Even the age group of people falling in love has drastically reduced. This immature love among kids gives rise to complexities in future making their relationship fragile.
Not just these immature relationships tend to fail, even the mature ones are short lived when in a mutual emotional bond 'We' is replaced by 'My','Us' by 'I'. These give rise to complex relations. We have heard this many times"What about My career?" "But I don't want to live with your family. This is seen exactly when 'I' is kept before 'Us' which ultimately leads to breakups or divorces.
Love is blind- this is really hard to believe today as appearance is the prerequisite to falling in love. But yes I do feel that commitments are made blindly. I would best suggest that keep your eyes open when you are making a commitment for it would be very difficult for you to deal with problems that are bound to pop up later because you failed to keep up your own commitments.
Love today lacks that strong bond and respect. People are together because it's either cool or they are following the trend or they want physical love. Even if such relationships go ahead for many years it's just a mutual agreement to stay together without love. And love is a choice made by the heart and not a rationally or logically arrived at a conclusion made by the brain.
One more reason for such complexities is the lack of ability to sacrifice. We can't make sacrifices because we fail to understand the difference between our needs and wants. Our individualistic and self centered desires are far more important than the needs of the two. We should draw a fine line between needs and wants. Till we don't let go off our few wants for the sake of love, we cannot experience the beauty of true love. Today the need to live together is not superior to the want to live in a particular type of apartment in a particular city and how far away from the interference's of our families. This is what differentiates the iconic love stories from today's because of the sacrifices made by them.
For our love stories to be read and quoted as legendary examples we need only two ingredients blended in equal ratios- maturity and sacrifice for love to blossom in its true sense. Otherwise the status ''It's complicated" will continue to threaten the beauty and emotion of true love.