15 Styles Of Weak Distorted Thinking
You take the negative details and magnify them while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation.
2 · Polarized Thinking
Things are black and white, good or bad. You have to be perfect or you're a failure. There is no middle ground.
3 · Over-generalization
You come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or piece of evidence. If something bad happens once you expect it to happen over and over again.
4 · Mind Reading
Without their saying so, you know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, you are able to divine how people are feeling towards you.
5 · Catastophizing
You expect disaster. You notice or hear about a problem and start "what if's" what if tragedy strikes? what if it happens to you?
6 · Personalization
Thinking that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to you. You also compare yourself to others, trying to determine who's smarter, better looking etc.
7 · Control Fallacies
If you feel externally controlled, you see yourself as helpless, a victim of fate. The fallacy of internal control has you responsible for the pain and happiness of everyone around you.
8 · Fallacy of fairness
You feel resentful because you think you know whats fair but other people wont agree with you.
9 · Blaming
You hold other people responsible for your pain, or take the other tack and blame yourself for every problem or reversal.
10 · Shoulds
You have a list of ironclad rules about how you and other people *should* act. People who break the rules anger you and you feel guilty if you violate the rules.
11 · Emotional Reasoning
You beleive that what you feel must be true- automatically. If you feel stupid and boring, then you must be stupid and boring.
12 · Fallacy of change
You expect that other people will change to suit you if you just pressure or cajole them enough. You need to change people because your hopes for happiness seem to depend entirely on them.
13 · Global Labelling
You generalize one or two qualities into a negative global judgment.
14 · Being Right
You are continually on trial to prove that your opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and you will go to any length to demonstrate your rightness.
15 · Heaven's Reward Fallacy
You expect all your sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if there were someone keeping score. You feel bitter when the reward doesn't come.
By Sheikh Abdul Rahaman