BODY SHAMING : Shame on Mentality Not Body.
You know I won’t be no Stick Figure silicone Barbie Doll.
So if that’s what you’re into then go ahead and move along.
Because you know I am all about that Bass , ‘Bout thatBass, No treble.
Wow! Nice song by Meghan trainor, Right?Yeah, I also use to think the same way past this morning.
Well like every morning, I woke up with my favorite music on and this song (All ’bout that bass by meghan trainor) being one of the songs in my playlist.
I never gave a serious thought about this song. But just when i did, i realised that this is one of the most popular song on body shaming i have ever heard.
Well its not like that I hate this song now. But i am bit upset by the fact that this song creates a difference between fat and slim. It brings postivity in the mood of those who considers themselves as fat. But what about those people who are slim or should I say skinny ( according to society). This song just have such powerful words like “Stick figure” and “Barbie Doll”. And if you have heard this song then you might be knowing more such words. I just want to know what is wrong in being a stick figure. Aren’t skinny people beautiful? And what is wrong in being a barbie doll. I personally find barbie doll one of the favorite doll during my childhood.
Well my motive here is not to discuss what is Good or Bad in this song. My main motive is to raise your attention towards the most pathetic and shameful thing happening around us which is BODY SHAMING (FAT SHAMING AND SKINNY SHAMING)
Guys trust me, body shaming is the worst thing that one does, deals with or ignore.
What is BODY SHAMING?
According to Oxford Dictonary Body Shaming is The action or practice of humiliating someone by making mocking or critical comments about their body shape or size.
Well in simple terms Body shaming is just what we intentionally or non intentionally say about one’s body shape or size.
Did you ever stop and think about how often we are told to work on our appearance, or loose/gain weight.
And the most Ironical part of it is that these advices usually come from those who knows much less about us, our appearance and our lifestyle.
I see this body shaming every where. That song is just one example. I see magazines constantly offering tips about how to loose weight or how to get that perfect Bikini Body in just few days. Those T.V. commercials on Fitness food supplements and workout machines and tools which constantly keeps on reminding that being fat or skinny is a crime and one needs to change it to fit in the standards of this unrealistic society.
Everyday I see many pictures on internetthat are just enough to prove what kind of society we are living in. A society that judges you on your body weight and not your talent. A society that is much concerned about your body shape and size and not your soul. The society that merely praises figures on weighing machine rather than your uncountable talent.
And it is just not that these comments are from media only. Our closed ones are the first to judge us. I am talking about our friends, family, Relatives and the people with whom we spend our most of the time.
One should always remember that what others say about your body doesnot reflects the fault in your body. It reflects the fault in their mindset. Their extreme low mentality and that’s not your problem. Its their problem.
You should never forget that you are your own biggest critic. Before anyone says anything negative to you, Its only you who keeps on reminding yourself that you are fat or skinny. You are the one who constantly keep on noticing that little fault in your haircut, that tan on your body, that tiny mole on your face. You yourself think that your bum is too flat or too big. That you have thigh gap or not. That your belly is bulging out or shrinking in.
And the worst part of it is that the more you think about these things the more they appear as reality for you when you look in mirror.This does not mean that they appear the same way to others but its just that the more you think, the more you see it.
There are vairous reasons why people of my age are easily targeted. Firstly we are too young to realise our actual worth and to realise what is wrong or right for our health. Secondly people of my age are so easily influenced by celebrities and media. Lastly people of my age have this bad habit of giving a serious thought about others judgement and they overthink the matter so much that it finally becomes a reality for them. Usually this ends up in youngsters taking up wrong steps and in worst cases have ended up in committing suicides.
So, now the question arises..
What should we do to stop this?
The simple and straight answer to this is by bringing change in your mindset.
Have you ever wondered, what if everybody stops commenting such negative things about each other and starts complimenting each other about how beautiful they are in thier own real way. What if you all start giving postive comments instead of negative comments.
Well i believe that world wide change is possible only by collective efforts of all. All you need to do is to take stand and steps towards it.
I believe there are some points which can be helpful in stoping this act of body shaming. Some of the steps in which I believe are:
Be consicous of what you are saying and how it affects others.
Remember sometimes your opinion is not important to others.
Remember that body shape and size are mere characteristics.
Its better to praise the soul instead of body.
Start complimenting instead of commenting (negative).
Stop yourself and others from doing this act of body shaming
Stop! Looking at youself as an imperfect person. Nobody in this world is perfect. Start praising your body and start loving it.
It is good to have fit body to live a healthy life but one should not feel low about him/herself about being fat/skinny. These are the things which can be changed only if that makes you happy but not on the cost of your self esteem. One should work on his/her body only if he/she wants so and not because society wants so.
It is your body and its shape, size is your business not others. Start loving yourself. Create goals in life and achieve them .
Celebrate life, Celebrate being beautiful, celebrate being you and celebrate being a human.
Love, Swati Bansal. ❤