Why these days "finding yourself" has started to sound like a punch line? I wish it was to do with going on travel and trips. Standing upside down on a hill-top till mental peace hugs you and all your worries rubs away. I wish it was to do with gaining few extra pounds or shedding a few, at the gym. I wish it was to do with eating animals or plants. I wish it was exploring multiple partners and entertain loose, meaning less relationships, friendships at the beck of bodily urges, tricking the mind to believe,
'just until the right one is found'. I wish it was to do with believing in the existence of God. I wish someone could "find themselves" the moment they switched their careers. I wish, it was more like eat, pray, love (and work in my version) and voila! you found yourself. The credits roll in, everyone chokes on high rise feelings and goes home. I call it bullshit!
Becoming yourself, becoming who you are and being comfortable with it without being an emotional snob, think, that's a start to finding yourself. Finding yourself, is a non verbal commitment to look for clues which influence your learning about yourself and while you do that, you will thrive to be someone better, inside and outside your shell. It will undoubtedly be the most painful process. And constant. You don't become wise because something twisted happened to you. You become wise because you are ready to learn from what screwed you. Not to sound cool or look sexy and mysterious to your date or post it at the social media hall fame. We, love our warm spot. Denial can be sweet. It keeps us happy and free.
The whole bucket list of things adds on to your experiences even test you but I doubt it does anything to show a map to who you are. It might make you temporary happy, get your hormones work in your favor but then that wears off pretty soon. Then, like a heroin addict you start looking for the next drip, the next change, next person, next job and there on and so forth.
Finding yourself is not episodic, it is forever. It is a dare, not a punch line.