None of us can change ourselves for what we are, who we are, how we are. No situation makes you this or that. It's not like the more you experience, the more you learn. Even if we learn all the things from all our experiences, life grins and puts you in a situation where you choose what you are, who you are, how you are. We choose what we want to, we become what we want to, we act how we want to. We all are weak yet vulnerable, fragile yet unbreakable, delusional yet acceptable, peaceful yet chaotic. Every stronger thing in this world has a weaker side. It's okay to be what you are, who you are, how you are.