Embracing Our Flaws
We all know people who we work with, go to school with, workout at the gym with, people in our neighborhoods and relatives. Those people would try to get under our skin and start trolling our flaws. What I mean is that people would mess with us to find our weaknesses.
There was a girl in my class in 3rd grade that told me I have the smallest ears in the world or why are my ears so small? And I would go all along with it and said, "yeah I know, small ears run in my family." When I said that, she had stopped picking on me about my ears. That is how we all should handle bullies as adults. Go along with it, and I promise everyone that people would stop trolling you.
When I think about that moment now, as an adult, we should always have that type of mindset. I know I had a lot of moments in my life as a child when people would tease me and I did not go along with them all the time If what they said about me. I would continue on with the situation arguing back and forth, but that is only making the situation worse. It is okay to always let a person know how you feel about the situation without swearing at them and going back and forth with them. Sometimes in a situation, depending on the individual who is the abuser of the situation. As adults, we have the power to walk away. I know sometimes that can be a challenge to do at times. When we walk away from a toxic situation, the abuser will not get under our skin anymore. When that bully who is shouting and swearing at us at our jobs, at school or at the grocery store. If you stay in that situation going back and forth with that bully, he or she will see you as a weak individual and that person will keep trolling you. They will not stop. They will keep finding ways to get under our skin. When that bully sees us walk away from them, they will see us as a strong individual that they can not troll anymore. They would say in their heads "awe I can't fuck with that bitch or nigga no mo, let me find some other nigga to fuck with." There are a lot of us who grew up in the hood, or even still lives in the hood being around so many negative energies. It is hard to walk away from situations that will occur all the time when you go out on the block or at the candy store where you always have that ignorant ghetto girl or that aggressive guy on the street that can not take the word "No" for an answer. We always have to defend ourselves living in the hood or projects. But when we all go out into the real world, start making money for ourselves and our families, or even going to college. We have to walk away from ignorance because if we do not walk away, we either get fired from our jobs, getting kicked out of school, or end up going to jail over someone trolling us. As an adult, I am not going to jail over something that is petty because someone got under my skin. That does not make any sense. I would say in my head now when I get into toxic situation "let me just walk away from this nigga, I got better things to do in my life besides arging with this bitch." Who cares if that person does not like how I look, or how ugly I look to them. There are a lot of people in this world whose skins are disfigured or had got burnt in a fire and survived, or someone that is handicap with one arm or one leg. Those people are the strongest individuals that are embracing their flaws every day. We all have to love ourselves for who we are. Love our flaws. I love my flaws. I wear glasses, and I am going to keep wearing glasses. I am not putting any contexts in my eyes. I love my tiny eyes. I love looking nice wearing my bright color outfits when I go out. I love my bumps and moles on my body. I love my thick booty. I love myself. I embrace my flaws and you all have to do the same as well. The only person that will accept our flaws is ourselves and God. God loves our flaws. Be faithful and grateful for how God made us.