Embrace your internal locus of control. The internal locus of control is a fancy way of saying how you view yourself in relation to events in your life and your attitude towards situations that happen to you. A strong internal locus of control means that you take responsibility for things in your life, and you have a hardy sense of being able to manage problems or difficulties that may come your way. To begin changing your lifefor the better, beef up your internal locus of control.
In contrast, if you have an external locus of control, you feel as though things just happen to you, you are a victim of your circumstances, and you don't feel as though you have much agency in your life to deal with challenging events.
An easy example is to imagine you have been in a car accident, no one is hurt, and you and the other driver are both at fault. If you are oriented in having an internal locus of control, you will accept the situation, have confidence you will be able to deal with the consequences, and feel that, even though this is a challenging situation, you will be able to handle it. If your locus of control is external, your thoughts may be a long the lines of, “Why does this always happen to me? Nothing ever goes my way. I always mess everything up. The world is out to get me, no matter what I do.”