Redefine your values❤
Keep in mind that being real is a constantly evolving process. Life changes, and so will your values. You're not the same person at 30 years old as you were at 15.
Over the years, you'll likely suffer from cognitive dissonance, a psychological term that refers to the stress or discomfort experienced when you hold contradictory beliefs or your beliefs and actions do not match, at some point(s).
So you will constantly need to be learning about yourself, sorting through your beliefs and discarding what is no longer relevant and embracing what matters in the moment.
Being real is a constant process of redefinition of yourself and who you want to be.
Maybe, for instance, when you were 13 years old, you wanted to be married and have children by 26 years old so you could be a young mom.
However, if you're now 30 and neither married nor a parent, you may need to reevaluate that goal and belief.
Maybe you decided that your education and career are your top priorities, or maybe you just didn't find the right partner. Or maybe your beliefs changed and you no longer believe in the institution of marriage.
Reflecting on your life and your interior self (those thoughts and feelings from within) can help you redefine what it is you believe and your identity at different stages in your life.
Note that it’s hard to be real at any age if you don't know what your fundamental desires, wants, needs, and values are!
You have to be willing to realize that things change and, most importantly, that YOU change over time.