Incomplete is new cool !
People say at some point being whole in each and every sense is necessary.
They indirectly are either targeting coupled with mocking and taunting you for not having a guy in your life.
More specifically a cliched fluff ball or stereotypical boyfriend who can take care of you and make you feel perfect and full in the relationship aspect of life.
But what if you aren't eager to jump into this cliched bandwagon of having a boyfriend !! What if you don't want to run into an overcrowded train of relationships !!
Does what these nincompoops and rudimentary sets of eyes called society says really matter to you at that apt moment !!
The answer is no .. A today's generation girl is very practical and non committal to relationships with boys ..
Simply because it's very complicated wreck and mess of extremes when your career isn't set or is finally getting started where concretizing and solidifying ourselves in that field of work requires a lot of hardwork and dedication.
It's more like getting tied down by chains and ruining your life by your own hands.
Today being complete is being happy with yourself. Pampering and loving ourself by hugging and enveloping our brutal scars, murky waters, broken pieces, and imperfections too.
We see the seasons change itselves on their set time and accord and when they keep evolving in the entire globalscape with different cycles and timings and temperatures that time it's all normal and routine.
So why after 20's, if you haven't experienced anything close to like a first boyfriend, serious dating phase or a relationship is that considered an abnormal thing by many !!
Does that make any of us girls an anti social nerd who's an introvert or too choosy having high hopes for getting a guy of their liking !!
The answer is no it doesn't .. It just means that right now we ain't ready for any serious total relationship commitment and boyfriend girlfriend fluff mentally, emotionally and physically too ..
What if nowadays guys see girls more like in these five broad categories like :-
a.) Only as a Friend.
b.) More than good friends.
c.) Friends with benefits.
d.) Bestfriends forever.
e.) Physical sexual intimacy only.
Thinking from a guy's point of view, are guys of this current new age only seeing girls as a way to fulfill their sexual needs and desires !!
Do the girls don't have heart and feelings which get hurt and bruised by such douchebags over and over again !!
Are guys and girls actually afraid of giving serious commitment to each other and being in relationship suffocates them !!
The answer is Yes they are .. they'll happily do non serious flirting and casual dating with each other for fun and happy times because they both know it's not serious.
But for relationship commitment and even appropriately dating each other in a boyfriend girlfriend phase having that comfort level, best friendship, transparency, loyalty, trust, space, honesty, proper communication, rapport with each other, alike mental IQ level and mentalities, decent positive vibes emanating from alpha and luna (guy and girl), similar emotional sensibilities, and actually liking each other and more so accepting good and bads of one another is very important.
So even if you're incomplete in judgemental pairs of nosy and interfering people be happily just yourself with yourself and smile wide and bubble wrap yourself in jolly vibes and bubbles coz girl "Incomplete is new cool".
By Vrinda Mundara