A Man With An Abundance Mindset
I am a woman, and I am understanding male nature every day. I am understanding how men think. I have done research on how males act and how the male mind operates. I understand men now more than ever. I understand why men cheat and why women cheat. But this topic today is not about women, it is about men. I am going to tell you all men what it means to have an abundance mindset. The men that are reading this poem, I want you all to understand my point of view based on my research.
Why do men cheat? Well, according to an expert on relationships, a book written by AMS Strategies. Men cheat for different reasons. A man may not be satisfied with the woman he is with. That woman is not fulfilling his needs, such as sexual needs, showing affection, not cooking or cleaning, and honesty. Those are the basic typical reasons why men cheat. I used to always wonder why some of my aunts and including my mother could not keep a man. They still do not have a man today. Well first, they do not cook or clean. Second, they think all men are the same. third, they think a man should do everything. Fourth, when they get a man, they tend to let that man chase them. Men should not chase women, men pursue women. The difference between chase and pursuit is that chasing is when a man is becoming desperate. Most people would say thirsty. If that man is an alpha male, he does not chase a woman. A woman chases the alpha male. An alpha male is a man that leads the relationship. It is in a man's nature to take the lead in a relationship. It is not a control situation, it is out of respect for the woman. An alpha male protects his woman. An alpha male wants a feminine woman, not a masculine woman who tends to act aggressively in the relationship. Alpha males do not chase women, beta males chase women. The beta males are the ones who tend to act desperate and thirsty for that woman he sees. That can be a turn off for a woman to see a man that is acting desperate and thirsty. I know a lot of you women that are reading this poem may know what I am talking about. A lot of you women might have experienced this situation of a man or boy that was acting really thirsty and coming on to you. That is unattractive to a woman. I do not like it when a man is acting desperate. That is why I said men should not chase women.
The other term is to pursue. Yes, men should be the first to ask a woman out, but men should take their time asking a woman out. There is no rush. Men should not come on too strong. Men should let the woman do the chasing. Life is not all about chasing women. Life is about chasing your purpose in life. Whether you are a poet, writer, businessman, actor, artist, painter, etc… Most men's mindset is based on just women, and that is why most men do not reach their goals in life because they are so fixated on going to the club meeting women or picking up prostitutes. Men should focus more on their goals first. Women come after you put your all into your purpose. Do not put your all into a woman. Do not chase love, let love find you.
In my past, my boyfriend put his all into our relationship. I did not feel the same way he felt. He was deeply in love with me. That is why I do not believe in deep love or romantic love. That can become a drug. I talked about needing space in my other poems. We all need space from our partners and spouses. My boyfriend was so focused on me and not being focused on himself. I was his priority, and I hated that. I was tired of being around him all the time. Now, he does not put me first anymore and I like that. He put his purpose first. He has an abundance mindset of being masculine in our relationship, and he is focusing on his purpose. Men should focus on making money, and let that prostitute or stripper come later. Money comes first.
Another meaning of having an abundance mindset is that you know you can replace somebody. I have heard a lot of men always say to a woman that you are my one and only, and do not ruin this relationship. If that woman is the only woman for you, then you are not confident that you can replace her for another woman. Do not be fixated on that woman if she is not treating you right. She may not find you attractive. Other women may find you attractive. My boyfriend may not find me attractive, but I know there are a lot of men out there that will. Some men may think I am unattractive, but I know a lot of men that say I am beautiful and sexy. If my boyfriend breaks up with me, I know I can easily find another man if I want to. A man does not control me. I am confident of that. Be confident in yourself, and always have an abundance mindset of pursuing your purpose. Put that person you are with after your purpose. Focus more on your purpose and passions.