Communication is not key
Allow me to explain. Yes, communication in any relationship is exceedingly important; however, understanding what is being communicated is most valuable. In my experience I've learned several difficult lessons, all acquired "the hard way". It used to be that I attempted to manipulate a situation into being what I wanted. It was only when I finally realized that all I had to do was be transparent with the person in which I was communicating with. When I became brutally honest with myself about how and why I was feeling the way I did, I was able to learn that if I explain my feelings, my own ideas and thoughts regarding the subject then I did half of my part. What is the other half of my part? The answer is to successfully understand the other person's feelings and thoughts. First, I had to ask myself: "what is my purpose for communicating the subject matter?" Am I trying to make a point out of anger or frustration? Or, am I seeking a healthy solution? As I reflected on past attempts I saw a pattern. It wasn't pleasing to me or the other party. I usually wanted to verbally outwit or try and change their views. Then I made the decision to be honest, think before I spoke and have the end goal of truly understanding where the other person was coming from, and empathize with them. Even if they were wrong, I still made the conscious effort to see the topic from their eyes and not my own. That changed the way I argued with my significant other, my friend's, my coworkers, and my family. As they saw how I was sincerely trying to communicate effectively, they too became willing to understand me. After I began communicating in a very transparent and more positive manner with the people in my life, our relationships grew stronger. Instead of attempting to hurt someone with your words or witt, try having a goal oriented type of conversation with them. The goal being to obtain a healthy solution to the problem. Whether that be yours or theirs. I promise if you honestly open yourself up to empathy and true, undeniable understanding, you will find peace in your relationships as well. So, for me communication is not "key", it's only half of my responsibility in all of my relationships. Understanding is essential.