#wisdomquotes

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  • ashart 2h

    Be aware of thought patterns that chip away at your self-esteem������

    For a lot of us, negative thoughts and beliefs can become so normal that we just assume them to be accurate reflections of reality.

    Try to be aware of some key patterns of thinking that harm your self-esteem:

    Turning positives into negatives - You discount your achievements and positive experiences.

    For example, if you get a promotion, instead of seeing it as a reward for your hard work, you diminish your personal responsibility:
    "I only got the promotion because the boss lives in my neighborhood."

    All-or-nothing or binary thinking - In your mind, life and everything you do only has two paths. Things are either good or bad, positive or negative, etc.

    For example, if you don't get in to your top-school but get into five others, you still insist that you're a total failure and worthless because you didn't get into Harvard. You see things as either all good or all bad.

    Mental filtering - You see only the negative side of things and filter out everything else. This usually results in distortions of individuals and situations.

    For example, if you made a typo on a report, you assume that the report is now worthless and that your boss is going to think you're stupid and not up to the job."

    Jumping to negative conclusions - You assume the worst when there is almost no evidence to support that contention.

    For example, "My friend didn't respond to the invite I just sent a half hour ago so she must hate me."

    Mistaking feelings for facts - You infer that how you feel is reflective of a larger fact. For example, "I feel like a total failure, so I must be a total failure."

    Negative self-talk - You talk to yourself in negative terms, including put-downs, name-calling, and self-deprecating humor.

    For example, if you're five minutes late, you scold yourself repeatedly and call yourself "stupid."
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    Be aware of thought patterns that chip away at your self-esteem

    For a lot of us, negative thoughts and beliefs can become so normal that we just assume them to be accurate reflections of reality.

    Try to be aware of some key patterns of thinking that harm your self-esteem:

    Turning positives into negatives - You discount your achievements and positive experiences.

    For example, if you get a promotion, instead of seeing it as a reward for your hard work, you diminish your personal responsibility:
    "I only got the promotion because the boss lives in my neighborhood."

    All-or-nothing or binary thinking - In your mind, life and everything you do only has two paths. Things are either good or bad, positive or negative, etc.

    For example, if you don't get in to your top-school but get into five others, you still insist that you're a total failure and worthless because you didn't get into Harvard. You see things as either all good or all bad.

    Mental filtering - You see only the negative side of things and filter out everything else. This usually results in distortions of individuals and situations.

    For example, if you made a typo on a report, you assume that the report is now worthless and that your boss is going to think you're stupid and not up to the job."

    Jumping to negative conclusions - You assume the worst when there is almost no evidence to support that contention.

    For example, "My friend didn't respond to the invite I just sent a half hour ago so she must hate me."

    Mistaking feelings for facts - You infer that how you feel is reflective of a larger fact. For example, "I feel like a total failure, so I must be a total failure."

    Negative self-talk - You talk to yourself in negative terms, including put-downs, name-calling, and self-deprecating humor.

    For example, if you're five minutes late, you scold yourself repeatedly and call yourself "stupid."
    ©ashart

  • ashart 1d

    Find the triggers of your low self-esteem��������

    Think about any troubling conditions or situations that might be related to why you feel badly about yourself.

    For many people, typical triggers may include work meetings, school presentations, interpersonal problems at work or home, and significant life changes, such as leaving home, changing jobs, or separating from a partner.

    You may also need to think about people who make you feel badly about yourself.

    You can't control anyone else's behavior; what you can control is how you respond and how you let their behavior impact you.

    If another person is unjustly rude, mean, or dismissive or disrespectful towards you, understand that he may have his own problems or emotional issues that is causing him to act negatively towards you.

    However, if this person is triggering your low self-esteem, it is best if you can walk away or remove yourself from situations where that person is present, particularly if they respond negatively if you try to confront him about his behavior.

    While other people's opinions and ideas have their place in your life, don't set your life according to them.

    Listen and take on board what works for you. You are the governor of your own life. No one else can do that for you.

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    Find the triggers of your low self-esteem

    Think about any troubling conditions or situations that might be related to why you feel badly about yourself.

    For many people, typical triggers may include work meetings, school presentations, interpersonal problems at work or home, and significant life changes, such as leaving home, changing jobs, or separating from a partner.

    You may also need to think about people who make you feel badly about yourself.

    You can't control anyone else's behavior; what you can control is how you respond and how you let their behavior impact you.

    If another person is unjustly rude, mean, or dismissive or disrespectful towards you, understand that he may have his own problems or emotional issues that is causing him to act negatively towards you.

    However, if this person is triggering your low self-esteem, it is best if you can walk away or remove yourself from situations where that person is present, particularly if they respond negatively if you try to confront him about his behavior.

    While other people's opinions and ideas have their place in your life, don't set your life according to them.

    Listen and take on board what works for you. You are the governor of your own life. No one else can do that for you.
    ©ashart

  • ashart 2d

    Let go of the idea of perfection������

    Nobody is perfect. Make that your new mantra. You're never going to have the perfect life, the perfect body, the perfect family, the perfect job, and so on. Neither will anyone else.

    Perfection is an artificial notion created and proliferated by society and the media and it does a great disservice to most of us by suggesting that perfection IS attainable and the problem is simply that we're not up to snuff.

    Focus on effort rather than the desire for perfection. If you don't try something because you're afraid you won't do it perfectly, then you don't stand a chance in the first place.

    If you never try out for the basketball team it's a guarantee that you won't make the team. Don't let the pressure to be perfect hold you back.

    Accept that you are a human being and that human beings are fundamentally imperfect and make mistakes. Maybe you spoke too harshly to your child or told a white lie at work. It's okay. People make mistakes.

    Instead of berating yourself for your errors, view them as opportunities to learn and grow and as things that you can rectify in the future.

    Maybe you'll realize that you need to think more carefully before you speak or that lying is never a good thing to resort to. Forgive yourself and move forward; this isn't easy but it's key to avoiding that cycle of self-pity and low self-esteem.

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    Let go of the idea of perfection

    Nobody is perfect. Make that your new mantra. You're never going to have the perfect life, the perfect body, the perfect family, the perfect job, and so on. Neither will anyone else.

    Perfection is an artificial notion created and proliferated by society and the media and it does a great disservice to most of us by suggesting that perfection IS attainable and the problem is simply that we're not up to snuff.

    Focus on effort rather than the desire for perfection. If you don't try something because you're afraid you won't do it perfectly, then you don't stand a chance in the first place.

    If you never try out for the basketball team it's a guarantee that you won't make the team. Don't let the pressure to be perfect hold you back.

    Accept that you are a human being and that human beings are fundamentally imperfect and make mistakes. Maybe you spoke too harshly to your child or told a white lie at work. It's okay. People make mistakes.

    Instead of berating yourself for your errors, view them as opportunities to learn and grow and as things that you can rectify in the future.

    Maybe you'll realize that you need to think more carefully before you speak or that lying is never a good thing to resort to. Forgive yourself and move forward; this isn't easy but it's key to avoiding that cycle of self-pity and low self-esteem.
    ©ashart

  • ashart 3d

    Do things you enjoy����

    Set aside time to do something that makes you happy every day, whether that means cooking, reading, exercising, gardening, or spending an hour just talking with your spouse.

    Don't feel guilty for this time you've set aside to enjoy; you deserve it. Repeat that statement as needed.

    Experiment with new activities; you might learn about talents or skills you didn't know you possessed.

    Maybe you take up running track and discover that you are really good at long-distance running, something you'd never thought of before. This can help increase your self-esteem.

    Consider taking up artistic activities such as painting, music, poetry, and dance.
    Artistic endeavors often help people learn how to express themselves and attain a sense of 'mastery' of a subject or skill.

    Lots of community sentences offer free or reasonably-priced classes.

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    Do things you enjoy

    Set aside time to do something that makes you happy every day, whether that means cooking, reading, exercising, gardening, or spending an hour just talking with your spouse.

    Don't feel guilty for this time you've set aside to enjoy; you deserve it. Repeat that statement as needed.

    Experiment with new activities; you might learn about talents or skills you didn't know you possessed.

    Maybe you take up running track and discover that you are really good at long-distance running, something you'd never thought of before. This can help increase your self-esteem.

    Consider taking up artistic activities such as painting, music, poetry, and dance.
    Artistic endeavors often help people learn how to express themselves and attain a sense of 'mastery' of a subject or skill.

    Lots of community sentences offer free or reasonably-priced classes.
    ©ashart

  • ashart 4d

    Be deliberate with your thoughts and beliefs������

    Try to focus on positive, encouraging, and constructive thoughts. Remember that you are a special.

    one-of-a-kind person that deserves love and respect - from others and from yourself. Try these strategies:

    Use hopeful statements. Be optimistic and avoid the self-fulfilling prophecy of pessimism. If you expect bad things, they often occur.

    For example, if you anticipate a presentation going poorly, it just might. Instead, be positive. Tell yourself, "Even though it's going to be a challenge, I can handle this presentation."

    Focus on "can" and avoid "should" statements. "Should" statements imply that there is something you ought to be doing.

    this might cause you to feel pressured if you can't meet these expectations. Instead, focus on what you CAN do.

    Focus on the positive. Think about the good parts of your life. Remind yourself of things that have gone well recently.

    Consider the skills you've used to cope with challenging situations.

    Be your own cheerleader. Give yourself positive encouragement and credit for the positive things you do.

    For example, you might note that although you're not getting all the exercise you'd like to be getting, you have been doing to the gym one extra day a week Give yourself credit for making positive changes.

    For example, "My presentation might not have been perfect, but my colleagues asked questions and remained engaged — which means that I accomplished my goal."

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    Be deliberate with your thoughts and beliefs

    Try to focus on positive, encouraging, and constructive thoughts. Remember that you are a special.

    one-of-a-kind person that deserves love and respect - from others and from yourself. Try these strategies:

    Use hopeful statements. Be optimistic and avoid the self-fulfilling prophecy of pessimism. If you expect bad things, they often occur.

    For example, if you anticipate a presentation going poorly, it just might. Instead, be positive. Tell yourself, "Even though it's going to be a challenge, I can handle this presentation."

    Focus on "can" and avoid "should" statements. "Should" statements imply that there is something you ought to be doing.

    this might cause you to feel pressured if you can't meet these expectations. Instead, focus on what you CAN do.

    Focus on the positive. Think about the good parts of your life. Remind yourself of things that have gone well recently.

    Consider the skills you've used to cope with challenging situations.

    Be your own cheerleader. Give yourself positive encouragement and credit for the positive things you do.

    For example, you might note that although you're not getting all the exercise you'd like to be getting, you have been doing to the gym one extra day a week Give yourself credit for making positive changes.

    For example, "My presentation might not have been perfect, but my colleagues asked questions and remained engaged — which means that I accomplished my goal."
    ©ashart

  • ashart 5d

    Cultivate courage������

    Being real means being courageous. Sometimes you make yourself vulnerable to the criticism of others if you go your own way and don't conform to who everyone expects you to be. Moreover, being more introspective may cause other shifts in your life that you need to be prepared for.

    For example, perhaps in the process of self-reflection, you realize that you are not happy in your current relationship and that you spend much of your time trying to pretend to be the perfect girlfriend who does all the expected and correct things.

    It takes strength and courage to fight against social pressures and the reactions of others.

    Remember that you are always deserving of love and acceptance. You are who you are and if people can't love you for that, then perhaps they're not the right fit for your life.

    Avoid shaming yourself. Becoming more self-aware means also realizing that you are an imperfect human and that you have flaws. But no one is perfect.

    Perhaps you are a control freak or bossy. Instead of shaming yourself, accept those imperfections and try to find ways to cope with and alleviate them.

    Also consider how those flaws can be thought of as positives in some situations; your control freak nature, for example, means that you are never late with assignments or meetings.

    Moreover, because you have flaws, this makes you better able to empathize when other people make errors. All of the different parts of yourself - flaws and all - make you who you are.

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    Cultivate courage

    Being real means being courageous. Sometimes you make yourself vulnerable to the criticism of others if you go your own way and don't conform to who everyone expects you to be. Moreover, being more introspective may cause other shifts in your life that you need to be prepared for.

    For example, perhaps in the process of self-reflection, you realize that you are not happy in your current relationship and that you spend much of your time trying to pretend to be the perfect girlfriend who does all the expected and correct things.

    It takes strength and courage to fight against social pressures and the reactions of others.

    Remember that you are always deserving of love and acceptance. You are who you are and if people can't love you for that, then perhaps they're not the right fit for your life.

    Avoid shaming yourself. Becoming more self-aware means also realizing that you are an imperfect human and that you have flaws. But no one is perfect.

    Perhaps you are a control freak or bossy. Instead of shaming yourself, accept those imperfections and try to find ways to cope with and alleviate them.

    Also consider how those flaws can be thought of as positives in some situations; your control freak nature, for example, means that you are never late with assignments or meetings.

    Moreover, because you have flaws, this makes you better able to empathize when other people make errors. All of the different parts of yourself - flaws and all - make you who you are.
    ©ashart

  • ashart 1w

    Know that you don't have to prove anything to anyone����

    All people want to be validated by others. We want others to feel proud of us and want to be connected to us. But you have nothing to prove;

    you don't have to show the people around you or the world in general that you are a good person who does good things.

    Similarly, you don't have to hide those flaws that make you human. Guess what, if you're late sometimes, chances are that other people have been late at some point in the past.

    Being real means not only accepting your own strengths and weaknesses but letting other people see those as well. Trust that if you can forgive and accept yourself, others will too.

    It's exhausting to constantly pretend to be someone you're not for the benefit of others.

    Be real with people and they'll probably accept and embrace you to an even greater extent because they can see that you're just like them - a normal human being who makes mistakes sometimes but also does great things and has lots to offer.

    For example, maybe you have a tendency to be late, but you always insist on finishing a job before you leave the office.

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    Know that you don't have to prove anything to anyone

    All people want to be validated by others. We want others to feel proud of us and want to be connected to us. But you have nothing to prove;

    you don't have to show the people around you or the world in general that you are a good person who does good things.

    Similarly, you don't have to hide those flaws that make you human. Guess what, if you're late sometimes, chances are that other people have been late at some point in the past.

    Being real means not only accepting your own strengths and weaknesses but letting other people see those as well. Trust that if you can forgive and accept yourself, others will too.

    It's exhausting to constantly pretend to be someone you're not for the benefit of others.

    Be real with people and they'll probably accept and embrace you to an even greater extent because they can see that you're just like them - a normal human being who makes mistakes sometimes but also does great things and has lots to offer.

    For example, maybe you have a tendency to be late, but you always insist on finishing a job before you leave the office.
    ©ashart

  • ashart 1w

    Life Gives you more than thousand opportunities and if you choose to be Successful then you find the way to got it, you never stop by internal and outer problem and you never try to control anything, you just clearly know thing that I have To Achieve It.

    ����Be Prepared All the time ����

    Because

    ����Preparation Is Better Than Cure����
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    Be Prepared All The Time

    Because

    "Preparation is better than Cure"
    ©ashart

  • ashart 1w

    Foster an open mind❤��

    Be open and expose yourself to new ideas and multiple perspectives on things. Binary (e.g., good-bad thinking) can trap you in a cycle of judgement and really limit to your ability to be your true self.

    Embrace life as a constant cycle of learning; as your opinions, ideas, and values change, so will your interior and real self.

    Being open can mean different things. Read a book or take a class on a subject you don't know much about or even a subject you think you already have mastered.

    This can help you answer questions you have about the world around you and develop your own set of beliefs.

    For example, a lot of university students undergo a transformation in their self-identity as they learn and are exposed to new things and are separated from their parents really for the first time.

    Learning is one way to open your eyes and discover what resonates with you. Maybe you have questions about religion, so you decide to take a university class on the different religions.

    Maybe you want to know about your position as a woman in the world and so you take an introductory class on women's studies.

    Remember that maintaining a sense of curiosity about the world is one way in which to keep yourself excited and energized about life.
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    Foster an open mind❤

    Be open and expose yourself to new ideas and multiple perspectives on things. Binary (e.g., good-bad thinking) can trap you in a cycle of judgement and really limit to your ability to be your true self.

    Embrace life as a constant cycle of learning; as your opinions, ideas, and values change, so will your interior and real self.

    Being open can mean different things. Read a book or take a class on a subject you don't know much about or even a subject you think you already have mastered.

    This can help you answer questions you have about the world around you and develop your own set of beliefs.

    For example, a lot of university students undergo a transformation in their self-identity as they learn and are exposed to new things and are separated from their parents really for the first time.

    Learning is one way to open your eyes and discover what resonates with you. Maybe you have questions about religion, so you decide to take a university class on the different religions.

    Maybe you want to know about your position as a woman in the world and so you take an introductory class on women's studies.

    Remember that maintaining a sense of curiosity about the world is one way in which to keep yourself excited and energized about life.
    ©ashart

  • spellwith_nir 1w

    होश

    ऐसी डूबी शायरी में की हाथ में
    चाय है और पीने का होश नहीं
    ©spellwith_nir

  • ashart 1w

    Redefine your values��❤����

     Keep in mind that being real is a constantly evolving process. Life changes, and so will your values. You're not the same person at 30 years old as you were at 15.

    Over the years, you'll likely suffer from cognitive dissonance, a psychological term that refers to the stress or discomfort experienced when you hold contradictory beliefs or your beliefs and actions do not match, at some point(s).

    So you will constantly need to be learning about yourself, sorting through your beliefs and discarding what is no longer relevant and embracing what matters in the moment.

    Being real is a constant process of redefinition of yourself and who you want to be.

    Maybe, for instance, when you were 13 years old, you wanted to be married and have children by 26 years old so you could be a young mom.

    However, if you're now 30 and neither married nor a parent, you may need to reevaluate that goal and belief.

    Maybe you decided that your education and career are your top priorities, or maybe you just didn't find the right partner. Or maybe your beliefs changed and you no longer believe in the institution of marriage.

    Reflecting on your life and your interior self (those thoughts and feelings from within) can help you redefine what it is you believe and your identity at different stages in your life.

    Note that it’s hard to be real at any age if you don't know what your fundamental desires, wants, needs, and values are!

    You have to be willing to realize that things change and, most importantly, that YOU change over time.
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    Redefine your values❤

     Keep in mind that being real is a constantly evolving process. Life changes, and so will your values. You're not the same person at 30 years old as you were at 15.

    Over the years, you'll likely suffer from cognitive dissonance, a psychological term that refers to the stress or discomfort experienced when you hold contradictory beliefs or your beliefs and actions do not match, at some point(s).

    So you will constantly need to be learning about yourself, sorting through your beliefs and discarding what is no longer relevant and embracing what matters in the moment.

    Being real is a constant process of redefinition of yourself and who you want to be.

    Maybe, for instance, when you were 13 years old, you wanted to be married and have children by 26 years old so you could be a young mom.

    However, if you're now 30 and neither married nor a parent, you may need to reevaluate that goal and belief.

    Maybe you decided that your education and career are your top priorities, or maybe you just didn't find the right partner. Or maybe your beliefs changed and you no longer believe in the institution of marriage.

    Reflecting on your life and your interior self (those thoughts and feelings from within) can help you redefine what it is you believe and your identity at different stages in your life.

    Note that it’s hard to be real at any age if you don't know what your fundamental desires, wants, needs, and values are!

    You have to be willing to realize that things change and, most importantly, that YOU change over time.
    ©ashart

  • ashart 1w

    Do something for and with yourself❤��

     Take a day off and go for a hike by yourself. Eat at a restaurant alone. Or, better yet, travel by yourself. Some people find that some alone time is the best way to learn about themselves.

    They learn about what they can and can't do and what they want and don't want and usually emerge from a temporary solitary experiment feeling stronger and more in tune with themselves.

    Maybe, for example, you discover that you really enjoy "getting lost" in cities and prefer wandering around as opposed to scheduled tours.

    Sometimes it can seem in our modern world that to want to be alone is weird and unsettling. But some alone time can have several benefits;

    it can help you build your confidence, realize that you don't need the validation of others, learn to value your own opinions (as opposed to those of others) as well as invite opportunities to reflect on recent changes and "rearrange your mental furniture" to adjust to your changing life.

    Alone time can also help you home in on what exactly it is you want from life and give you that sense of purpose and direction so many of us crave.
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    Do something for and with yourself❤

     Take a day off and go for a hike by yourself. Eat at a restaurant alone. Or, better yet, travel by yourself. Some people find that some alone time is the best way to learn about themselves.

    They learn about what they can and can't do and what they want and don't want and usually emerge from a temporary solitary experiment feeling stronger and more in tune with themselves.

    Maybe, for example, you discover that you really enjoy "getting lost" in cities and prefer wandering around as opposed to scheduled tours.

    Sometimes it can seem in our modern world that to want to be alone is weird and unsettling. But some alone time can have several benefits;

    it can help you build your confidence, realize that you don't need the validation of others, learn to value your own opinions (as opposed to those of others) as well as invite opportunities to reflect on recent changes and "rearrange your mental furniture" to adjust to your changing life.

    Alone time can also help you home in on what exactly it is you want from life and give you that sense of purpose and direction so many of us crave.
    ©ashart

  • ashart 1w

    Build your relationships on respect❤��

    Mutual respect should be the foundation of each relationship you're starting, whether it is casual or more committed. Love and passion are beautiful things: but keep away from love devoid of respect. It is dangerous and can become creepy: or at least, pretty unnerving !

    Stay on your guards if your love interest ever treats you with meanness, rudeness or despise.

    Refuse insulting terms, hurting laughs, or dismisses of your freedom- even if they're only occasional. When a date gets really bad, make up some excuse and go away.

    Never stay in a relationship that brings you more sadness than joy. You don't have to put up with any condescending or violent treatment. Ask your friends, family -or even the police !- for help, if needed.

    Still, keep in mind respect does not mean complete devotion or putting someone on a pedestal. Gentle laughs and good-humoured teasing are a show of familiarity, but not an offensive one.

    Quarrels and arguments happen in the most loving relationships. So don't go to the other extreme and become paranoid or exacting with your partner.

    On the other hand, be sure to behave respectfully with your love interests. If you have no interest in seeing someone again, be distant but still polite. Remember to thank the person after a date invitation and ask for news from your social circle now and then.

    Don't get angry over little things, for instance somebody's showing off a little late. If you disagree with a person's point of view, express your own opinions in a calm and firm manner.

    Keep in mind laughing and joking are great ways to bond with someone but that mocking is not. Once you get to know a person better, be a considerate lover.

    Propose a lift, show interest, give a small present once in a while, cheer him/her up after a bad day, lend an attentive ear, give spontaneous hugs...and so on. Of course, don't overdo it ! Don't become excessively devoted or intrusive.

    You can respect and love a person and still say no to him/her once in a while.
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    Build your relationships on respect❤

    Mutual respect should be the foundation of each relationship you're starting, whether it is casual or more committed. Love and passion are beautiful things: but keep away from love devoid of respect. It is dangerous and can become creepy: or at least, pretty unnerving !

    Stay on your guards if your love interest ever treats you with meanness, rudeness or despise.

    Refuse insulting terms, hurting laughs, or dismisses of your freedom- even if they're only occasional. When a date gets really bad, make up some excuse and go away.

    Never stay in a relationship that brings you more sadness than joy. You don't have to put up with any condescending or violent treatment. Ask your friends, family -or even the police !- for help, if needed.

    Still, keep in mind respect does not mean complete devotion or putting someone on a pedestal. Gentle laughs and good-humoured teasing are a show of familiarity, but not an offensive one.

    Quarrels and arguments happen in the most loving relationships. So don't go to the other extreme and become paranoid or exacting with your partner.

    On the other hand, be sure to behave respectfully with your love interests. If you have no interest in seeing someone again, be distant but still polite. Remember to thank the person after a date invitation and ask for news from your social circle now and then.

    Don't get angry over little things, for instance somebody's showing off a little late. If you disagree with a person's point of view, express your own opinions in a calm and firm manner.

    Keep in mind laughing and joking are great ways to bond with someone but that mocking is not. Once you get to know a person better, be a considerate lover.

    Propose a lift, show interest, give a small present once in a while, cheer him/her up after a bad day, lend an attentive ear, give spontaneous hugs...and so on. Of course, don't overdo it ! Don't become excessively devoted or intrusive.

    You can respect and love a person and still say no to him/her once in a while.
    ©ashart

  • ashart 1w

    Become more aware of your feelings❤��

     Our feelings and emotions are our spontaneous reactions to our life experiences and can provide useful information and feedback about ourselves and our place in the world.
    Not everyone likes tuning into or thinking about their feelings, but it is a useful exercise because it tells you what you like and dislike, what makes you happy, sad, uncomfortable, anxious, and so on.

    One thing you can do to try to be more aware of how you feel is to reflect on the physical manifestations of emotions. For example:

    The feeling of butterflies in your stomach might signal nervousness or anxiety.

    A heated feeling in your face might indicate embarrassment or anger.

    Clenching your teeth or jaw might be a sign that you're upset, frustrated, or angry.
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    Become more aware of your feelings❤

     Our feelings and emotions are our spontaneous reactions to our life experiences and can provide useful information and feedback about ourselves and our place in the world.
    Not everyone likes tuning into or thinking about their feelings, but it is a useful exercise because it tells you what you like and dislike, what makes you happy, sad, uncomfortable, anxious, and so on.

    One thing you can do to try to be more aware of how you feel is to reflect on the physical manifestations of emotions. For example:

    The feeling of butterflies in your stomach might signal nervousness or anxiety.

    A heated feeling in your face might indicate embarrassment or anger.

    Clenching your teeth or jaw might be a sign that you're upset, frustrated, or angry.
    ©ashart

  • ashart 1w

    Communicate and flirt��❤����

     OK, now you're out and you know the score, so what happens? Now you have to get familiar with the oldest dating habit: communication. Indeed, should you be surrounded by twenty eligible bachelors every day of the week.

    if you don't attempt to make conversation with any of them, your dating life will just stand still.

    Get rid of your shyness and apprehensions and start talking. It's not as difficult as it seems and will go easier and easier over time.

    Introduce yourself. Ask questions. Enquire about the person's activities, hobbies...and so on.
    Parties are the perfect place to communicate with strangers as you both know the host and can talk about how you came to know him/her as well as your own paths in life.

    If flirting makes you uneasy, persuade yourself you're not looking for a love interest, but simply, a new acquaintance- then see where it leads you to! Otherwise, if you feel attracted by the person, let it show!

    Use some simple, friendly signals: smile, make eye contact, laugh at his/her jokes (but do it genuinely), express your interest...Then, when you get to know the person better.

    you may employ physical contact: kiss him/her on the cheek when you part, or gently shake hands, pat him/her on the arm or the shoulder to make a point...Don't be too invading though: some people are touchy, specially with strangers!

    Verbal flirting will come naturally to you if you're attracted, and specially if you feel the feeling is mutual! Just keep this attraction in the back of your head: it will come out, in subtle touches, in the course of your conversation. Again, don't make too blunt statements if you're unsure of the person-or of yourself!
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    Communicate and flirt❤

     OK, now you're out and you know the score, so what happens? Now you have to get familiar with the oldest dating habit: communication. Indeed, should you be surrounded by twenty eligible bachelors every day of the week.

    if you don't attempt to make conversation with any of them, your dating life will just stand still.

    Get rid of your shyness and apprehensions and start talking. It's not as difficult as it seems and will go easier and easier over time.

    Introduce yourself. Ask questions. Enquire about the person's activities, hobbies...and so on.
    Parties are the perfect place to communicate with strangers as you both know the host and can talk about how you came to know him/her as well as your own paths in life.

    If flirting makes you uneasy, persuade yourself you're not looking for a love interest, but simply, a new acquaintance- then see where it leads you to! Otherwise, if you feel attracted by the person, let it show!

    Use some simple, friendly signals: smile, make eye contact, laugh at his/her jokes (but do it genuinely), express your interest...Then, when you get to know the person better.

    you may employ physical contact: kiss him/her on the cheek when you part, or gently shake hands, pat him/her on the arm or the shoulder to make a point...Don't be too invading though: some people are touchy, specially with strangers!

    Verbal flirting will come naturally to you if you're attracted, and specially if you feel the feeling is mutual! Just keep this attraction in the back of your head: it will come out, in subtle touches, in the course of your conversation. Again, don't make too blunt statements if you're unsure of the person-or of yourself!
    ©ashart

  • ashart 2w

    Understand what authenticity means����

    Psychologists define authenticity as manifestation of a person's true self in their everyday lives. Basically, it means that your core self is reflected in what you believe, say, and do everyday.

    People who are real accept themselves and all of their strengths as well as their weaknesses. They behave in ways that align with their values and avoid behaviors that do not fit neatly with their values.
    At its core, authenticity is about being real and genuine.

    The first step to being real begins when you actively decide to be genuine. This has to be a conscious decision.

    You will also have to commit to acting in accordance with who you are even though sometimes this will be challenging and you will feel vulnerable.

    Realness may require you to do things that will be unpopular with other people. You may also have to acknowledge aspects of yourself that are less favorable, but this is important because acknowledging what you value or do not value about yourself leads you to live an open and honest -- and more real -- life.

    Being real has benefits for your mental health. Research has shown that authentic people feel better about themselves and are more likely to show resilience in the face of personal challenges and less likely to engage in self-destructive coping mechanisms like alcohol abuse or other risky behavior.

    Authentic people also tend to demonstrate more purpose in their choices and are more goal-directed and committed to seeing things through to success.
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    Understand what authenticity means

    Psychologists define authenticity as manifestation of a person's true self in their everyday lives. Basically, it means that your core self is reflected in what you believe, say, and do everyday.

    People who are real accept themselves and all of their strengths as well as their weaknesses. They behave in ways that align with their values and avoid behaviors that do not fit neatly with their values.
    At its core, authenticity is about being real and genuine.

    The first step to being real begins when you actively decide to be genuine. This has to be a conscious decision.

    You will also have to commit to acting in accordance with who you are even though sometimes this will be challenging and you will feel vulnerable.

    Realness may require you to do things that will be unpopular with other people. You may also have to acknowledge aspects of yourself that are less favorable, but this is important because acknowledging what you value or do not value about yourself leads you to live an open and honest -- and more real -- life.

    Being real has benefits for your mental health. Research has shown that authentic people feel better about themselves and are more likely to show resilience in the face of personal challenges and less likely to engage in self-destructive coping mechanisms like alcohol abuse or other risky behavior.

    Authentic people also tend to demonstrate more purpose in their choices and are more goal-directed and committed to seeing things through to success.
    ©ashart

  • ashart 2w

    Don't put yourself down❤��

    Society can be hard on single people. If most of the people you know are in relationships, you may wonder if the problem is you, but don't.

    As long as you're decently clean, reasonably nice and not inapproachable, there's no reason you couldn't have a love life of your own.

    Remember that love and dating are mostly made of chance encounters, even on the dating websites.

    Get rid of all the self-deprecatory thinking and talking: once you put yourself down, others are likely to do so as well. Dismiss all negative comments on your single status, either from your acquaintances or from yourself.

    For instance, if you're self-conscious about your appearance, keep in mind this is roughly everybody's case.

    Try to describe yourself objectively or ask a trustworthy friend to do so. You'll find out you have beautiful traits, just like everyone else.

    If you still can't get over the idea that lovable people must be perfect and you're not, visualize the persons you know who are in a happy relationship right now, or the couples you see walking down the street.

    Are they all gorgeous looking, or incredibly brainy? Chance is, they're as imperfect as you-and maybe more so !
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    Don't put yourself down❤

    Society can be hard on single people. If most of the people you know are in relationships, you may wonder if the problem is you, but don't.

    As long as you're decently clean, reasonably nice and not inapproachable, there's no reason you couldn't have a love life of your own.

    Remember that love and dating are mostly made of chance encounters, even on the dating websites.

    Get rid of all the self-deprecatory thinking and talking: once you put yourself down, others are likely to do so as well. Dismiss all negative comments on your single status, either from your acquaintances or from yourself.

    For instance, if you're self-conscious about your appearance, keep in mind this is roughly everybody's case.

    Try to describe yourself objectively or ask a trustworthy friend to do so. You'll find out you have beautiful traits, just like everyone else.

    If you still can't get over the idea that lovable people must be perfect and you're not, visualize the persons you know who are in a happy relationship right now, or the couples you see walking down the street.

    Are they all gorgeous looking, or incredibly brainy? Chance is, they're as imperfect as you-and maybe more so !
    ©ashart

  • ashart 2w

    Know what you want and don't want❤��

    Expectations vary with people. Before entering the dating scene, you have to determine what you're looking for there.

    Do you want a serious relationship, or just a casual one? Would you be okay with having a friend with benefits, or one night stands?

    In short, you should check what a "great love life" is in your opinion. It will help when you actually meet people.

    For instance, dating a casual person could be considered as a loss of time if you're looking for a committed relationship. If you're not, it could be a lot of fun!

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    Know what you want and don't want❤

    Expectations vary with people. Before entering the dating scene, you have to determine what you're looking for there.

    Do you want a serious relationship, or just a casual one? Would you be okay with having a friend with benefits, or one night stands?

    In short, you should check what a "great love life" is in your opinion. It will help when you actually meet people.

    For instance, dating a casual person could be considered as a loss of time if you're looking for a committed relationship. If you're not, it could be a lot of fun!
    ©ashart

  • ashart 2w

    Enjoy your single life❤-

    A popular belief is that to be happy as a lover you first have to be happy as a single person. It may not always be true- or sad people would never find love, but that's still a wise idea.

    What's the point of wasting your life until you find somebody to love-or even to date ? You'll just make yourself sadder.

    It is perfectly normal to feel blue if you're lonely. But don't let that stop you from having fun!Happy and content people are much more attractive to meet! Spend time with your friends, exercise, indulge in hobbies and passions...live it up! Take advantage of your independence, too.

    You'll never be more free than you are right now. Now is the time to go abroad, form a music band, write a novel, try new things, put some wildness in your life... Remember that an interested person is always an interesting one as well, and it's not just because you're single and looking you shouldn't have the time of your life!
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    Enjoy your single life❤

     A popular belief is that to be happy as a lover you first have to be happy as a single person. It may not always be true- or sad people would never find love, but that's still a wise idea. What's the point of wasting your life until you find somebody to love-or even to date ? You'll just make yourself sadder. It is perfectly normal to feel blue if you're lonely. But don't let that stop you from having fun!

    Happy and content people are much more attractive to meet! Spend time with your friends, exercise, indulge in hobbies and passions...live it up! Take advantage of your independence, too. You'll never be more free than you are right now. Now is the time to go abroad, form a music band, write a novel, try new things, put some wildness in your life... Remember that an interested person is always an interesting one as well, and it's not just because you're single and looking you shouldn't have the time of your life!
    ©ashart

  • ashart 2w

    This Valentine Day ❤..
    My advice for you..

    Take care of yourself. Of course, there is more to someone than the way he or she looks. Dating is often made of first impressions, though so be sure the one you'll give is good. No need to become a model - just keep your general appearance clean, nice and attractive.

    Have good hygiene. Showering everyday, washing your hair as often as needed, and brushing your teeth regularly are basic rules. You could also go further and change your looks a little. A brand new haircut is always popular to make a fresh start. For girls, you could try another way to make up, or have your hands done at a beauty parlor. Be sure to enjoy the change, though, or else you'll regret it!

    Adopt healthy habits. Sleep as many hours a night as you need, enjoy the day's sunshine, exercise regularly, eat consistent and nutritious meals...You know the list. Not only will this make you look fitter (and thus more attractive); it will also give you a healthier constitution-which means more stamina, which is not something to overlook if you plan on going out, and being a dynamic person to date!

    Take a good look at your wardrobe. Do you like what you see? Are you tired of your regular clothes ? You could consider buying some items you don't possess (for instance if you're short of trendy evening clothes) or even changing your style a bit.. or, why not, a lot.

    Again, don't feel forced to do that: you starting off a dating life does not necessarily mean you have to make a complete break in your life. Your clothes should make you happy and comfortable. Still, be sure you have some pieces of clothing that really suit your appearance and personality, and that will look good on special occasions. For instance, a classy shirt, becoming blue-jeans, colorful sweater, little black dress... Don't hesitate to ask a good friend for advice!
    ©ashart

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    This Valentine Day ❤..
    My advice for you..

    Take care of yourself. Of course, there is more to someone than the way he or she looks. Dating is often made of first impressions, though so be sure the one you'll give is good. No need to become a model - just keep your general appearance clean, nice and attractive.

    Have good hygiene. Showering everyday, washing your hair as often as needed, and brushing your teeth regularly are basic rules. You could also go further and change your looks a little. A brand new haircut is always popular to make a fresh start. For girls, you could try another way to make up, or have your hands done at a beauty parlor. Be sure to enjoy the change, though, or else you'll regret it!

    Adopt healthy habits. Sleep as many hours a night as you need, enjoy the day's sunshine, exercise regularly, eat consistent and nutritious meals...You know the list. Not only will this make you look fitter (and thus more attractive); it will also give you a healthier constitution-which means more stamina, which is not something to overlook if you plan on going out, and being a dynamic person to date!

    Take a good look at your wardrobe. Do you like what you see? Are you tired of your regular clothes ? You could consider buying some items you don't possess (for instance if you're short of trendy evening clothes) or even changing your style a bit.. or, why not, a lot.

    Again, don't feel forced to do that: you starting off a dating life does not necessarily mean you have to make a complete break in your life. Your clothes should make you happy and comfortable. Still, be sure you have some pieces of clothing that really suit your appearance and personality, and that will look good on special occasions. For instance, a classy shirt, becoming blue-jeans, colorful sweater, little black dress... Don't hesitate to ask a good friend for advice!
    ©ashart