I believe that just because someone is gone from our lives, that doesn't mean we run out of things to say to them. I believe we can find universal experience when we unite in the telling of our stories, even to those who we have never met, or may never see again. Though we haven't met ever, today on 1st of April, 2020 your 5th death Anniversary, I am writing a letter to you, to let you know that you will always be missed, Baba!
In the last one year I have met three incredibly lovely people, kin of yours ; your beloved son, your amazing daughter and a beautiful wife! They welcomed me into the Chavan's family with open arms. I wish I could have met you too. I grew up with a father, but not with a father's love. Like every girl, I wished to have those special father-daughter moments, everytime when a father and a daughter's picture pops up in front of me, everytime i hear a story about a father's love for his daughter, every time i see a father supporting his daughter even when the world is against, I realise the loss life gave me. I wanted to believe a man stood strong with me and yes that's who my father is. I always craved for a father's love all my life and i guess now its going to be this ways until forever.
I wish I had met your son years earlier so I could have met the man he holds as the standard of a good partner and father. I wish I could hear stories told from your perspective about him as a little boy, or watch the way you and mummy interact with each other. I always wonder if you would have liked me, if you would have thought I was a good fit for your son.. I know you are somewhere around. And though i haven't met you, I always wonder if you could think I can be a good wife to your son.
Yes, one day! One day, I wish to marry the boy you and your beautiful wife raised into a gentleman. I hope you will bless me with this. I know the way your wife took care of you and I just hope you think I could do a good job too.
I believe I make your son happy. But a small piece of him always feels saddened that you are not there around. I think that is how life will always be for him. He will always wish you were there, no matter how big or small the life event is.
I hope that in years ahead when we have children we notice a characteristic, or personality trait that we cannot pin-point where they got it from, because then we know it will be safe to assume they got it from their Grandfather. He is going to wish so terribly that they could know you.
But you know something, I think our kids will know you more than they will ever realize. They will know you through watching the way their Daddy treats their Mumma. They will know you through the time your son as a father spends sitting in the front row cheering at every dance, recital or a football game. They will feel your heart through the way their daddy speaks to them, with patience and love. They will know your humor in the way he makes them laugh. They will know how supportive you were when they are facing a difficult time and they go to their Daddy for help.
I want you to know that the love I have for your son in indescribable and grows stronger each and every day. He is the most amazing partner, friend, and one day, will be the most incredible father.
Again, I wish I had gotten the chance to tell you that, Baba, i wish i could have had you around, i wish i could have experienced a father's love, i wish you could have called me your beta. Take care baba, You will always be remembered.