Even when I'm tripping cause of red bandaged wounds, I'm not ashamed of my bleeding vulnerabilities.
I have understood gazes and lived epochs in looks. I am well versed in difference between sympathies and care.
You feel heaviness with the idea of helping people in hardships. You have always feared people talking openly without shame about their struggles. Consider me, the way you loathe that's how I differentiate goats from lions.
Compassion is the air, empaths breathe in; compass attracting sufferers quenching healing.
Ironically, it's also the core quantity that asphyxiates them.
See, there are good sufferers and bad sufferers.
Bad sufferers are the ones that turn negative, rude, selfish, mean, idiotically numb and over of everything bad- I call them heniously dangerous calamity for an empath.
Something happened, Someone, a close one- a toxic partner in most cases happened. They suffer a great loss of themselves and keep hurting, couldn't come over from it by themselves, Okay? Till there it's normal. It happens with maximum population.
And then, you start hurting the ones who didn't do you wrong, the ones trying to scrap off the broken twigs gotten in the flesh of your wounded knees due to the bare fall you had on the harsh ground of life.
And here, it makes you bad sufferer. It's not hurt, it's hunt.
You see, the guy/girl I would call him/her a human, in true real human sense, trying to help you, listens you. You ask this human for clarity of picture of actions happening in your life and when he tell the truth, you blurs his reality, you ask him for advising you, he tells honestly and it hurts you fine? But then you make him drink poison of guilt for wrongly hurting you by telling you right. You know, that's where you make him A Douche bag.
He didn't deseve it, he's there to help you and you by all the means behave with him wrong. You're not someone else's responsibility, yet he's trying to help, he can anytime go and save himself from hell lot of you. Yet you keep on accusing him for the mistake he didn't commit, you thrash your anger outrageously on him, you insult him in a group. He tries to clear things out cause he understands what you're going through but you keep on lashing out and keep on sabotaging, inducing toxicity, inflicting negativity. Is this right?
And then what happens, you lose him and you keep on blaming him for this too. All this while, It was not him that was hurting you, it was you, yourself, you were giving taste of poison to him which someone else made you taste.
i. EMPATHS ARE NOT DOUCHE BAGS. DON'T TREAT THEM LIKE ONE.
ii. DON'T BE A BAD SUFFERER. We all suffer and it's not about who suffers more. Honestly, my less can be more for you or vice a versa. It's about not losing good in times of bad. It's about consciously choosing good time and over again. It's about not making saviours or others suffer even if it's unknowingly. It's about not thrashing and making someone else's life hell just cause life happened with you!