Whatever is happening inside you,say hurt, fear or anger with it. so carefully you must hold your feelings that you must know it is a blessings with disguise. true art of living is to expresses fully, totally and completely whatever is going on inside. if you put something in fire it undergoes combustion, gives you energy and vanishes. awareness is like a fire. If you stay with your suffering and give it your all awareness, that suffering will transform with itself and gives you energy. initially it becomes more, and more feels like a unbearable and then slowly you will discover new freedom with later gets converted into limitless joy.