Affection toward each other will help to rebuild things which already broken. Not everyone is in a perfect shape, they do have their past. Judging them from their past? It's the last thing to do if both of you are in the boat for good, by mean;not trying to sink the boat while both of you in it. If a perfection is what you looking for, you are not ready for the REAL commitment of the true relationship. You are more toward achieving the goal of 'perfect relationship goal' for social media society attention. Be real not a poser.
"Affection vs perfection". Affection won.