diary of living with an abuser
we tried counseling several times with at least 5 different providers. abusers are highly intelligent and manipulative people. and for him, he was very good at talking and very skilled at using words. when i would bring up past traumas, he would say that i'm throwing the past in his face or focusing on the past. he would also use information he learned from the therapist against me. so i stopped going. later he started to accuse me of refusing to work on the relationship.
this is the type of gaslighting you go through.