Expectations that you keep and the rules that you put do not have any space in relationship. By expectation you may get hurt and by rules you may get abandoned. Don't tell her what she has to do for her safety , just do it for her. Don't force her to follow the rules, you just give your best to strengthen the bond so she would follow the example (you). Don't tell him how much you love him, you just keep loving him let him to tell you much you love him . Don't tell him to keep distance from his female friends rather let him feel your absence . Love is not putting restrictions, following rules and showing pain, obviously, not. Love is if one partner is in pain and the other will feel it. That will not show it by words, that get shown by actions itself.