• __sni_pan__ 5w

    Now that I am talking about Mansplaining
    that obviously is one of the Toxic Sons
    born of the wedding of Patriarchy with Mysogyny

    I want to talk of Indian Stand up too

    I happened to watch Zakir Khan's
    'Haq se single..' on prime video..

    and it was replete with jokes on 'feminism'

    I found it highly inappropriate when he gloated
    How he doesn't do any work at home
    How he can't Cook, clean, has no life skills ( he said it..)
    AND how his mother still does all the work at his all-men household..( 3 brothers, 1 father)

    BECAUSE THEY HAVEN'T LET THEIR MOTHER KNOW THAT FEMINISM HAS ARRIVED..
    ..and now there is equality between men, women in sharing the work-load

    To quote him..

    " हमने अपनी मां को पता ही नहीं लगने दिया है कि फेमिनिज्म आ चुका है, जैसे ही टीवी पे कोई कहता है, कि महिलाओं को..

    हम टीवी ऑफ कर देते हैं..
    इसलिए हमारी मां आज भी हमारे सारे काम करती है.."
    ..and this elicited laughs from both men and women, that makes me wonder at the normalisation of this kinda jokes, set-up.

    I am giving room for the fact that I maybe over reacting, but I find this kind of humour, taking potshots at feminists and feminism—WHICH IS A VERY SERIOUS ISSUE—very inappropriate and triggering.

    Instead of making me laugh, this guy made me ANGRY, that NOT only is he gloating that he doesn't share any workload at home, he actually thinks it's funny that some people want men to.

    Again, I must give a disclaimer, that it is true, that we women/ girls are SENSITIVE about these topics, having endured casual Mysogyny all our lives, we do get triggered soon..

    But I want to tell the entire stand up comedy scene, making jokes about the lack of intelligence in beautiful girls or otherwise.. talking excessively about their looks, and character traits (the cliché of shopping, cleaning house all the time, doing a lot of make-up, taking a lot of time getting ready.)
    .
    Making jokes about their body parts AT ALL..(whether too thin, too fat, skin colour etc)

    Or belittling, marginalizing the efforts of women/ feminists to find equal footing with causal jokes, and normalising these jokes is all PLAIN UNACCEPTABLE.

    NOW, I am ALREADY TIRED from having lived my life, explaining, rationalising and fighting toxic masculinity.. and subtle forms of the same, like MANSPLAINING..

    So, I won't engage in any arguments with anyone.

    I am expressing my thoughts on My pages, it's MY SPACE.

    If I find someone's thoughts arbitrary, Toxic, unacceptable.. I unfriend/ Unfollow and mute them..

    I would advise you to do the same, if you are in opposition to my ideas..

    I am NOT INTERESTED in converting ANYONE to my line of thought.

    DO NOT TRY TO CONVERT ME TO YOUR IDEOLOGY, I ain't Interested.

    —Snigdha
    1.30 p.m
    12/09/19