People often guide others that maintain your standard, attitude and change yourself but what about the "real" yourself that is lost in these standard attitude things and changing yourself. No matter how you are no need to change yourself even if you are growing you don't need to maintain standard and attitude.
Just be the real yourself. Even if you look in the mirror after maintaining standard attitude and changing yourself, your appearance,look will remain the same. Just be the real you don't change for the world no matter what the situation is and don't follow the world's rule
Because after all you have to face god and only you need to answer for everything to god.