Is it okay to victimise the manipulators saying that they don't know they are harming others? If yes, then how okay it is? Where should we draw the line between acting unconsciously out of desperation and being pure evil? Is it okay to justify their acts saying that being a narcissist or a gaslighter is not something they willingly chose to be? If not, then how are we to punish them; how to make them realise that they are toxic? Is it true that it is not their fault? If yes, then who is responsible for the wounds of the actual victim?
Why do we think about the mental condition of the criminal more than that of the victim?