" Do As Much As You Say."
"Listening allows us to respond and responding is not the same as reacting (is it). Reacting is how we end up lashing out and running away from people.
Responding means considering another person's feelings, showing courtesy, even when you don't see the truth in what they're saying (at least not yet anyway) and making an effort to understand the spirit of what they are saying, and then responding to that."
Source Youtube by The Crappy Childhood Fairy: Title: Three CPTSD Behaviors that Push People Away.