It all starts from you. There is something powerful in knowing yourself and accepting yourself. When you know yourself, you are able to set healthy boundaries, walk away from things that do not seem to be working out, choose your happiness and be willing to acknowledge and improve your gap areas. And if you know yourself, you know you are not perfect and so you also accept others in their imperfections and circumstances. Thus, avoiding conflicts and unnecessary pursuits. Self-awareness is the greatest gift you can give to yourself and others. Meditation, constructive self-talk, journaling, spending time with yourself and reflection are some of the most effective tools for building yourself. An all rounded individual cannot be just a money churning machine with knowledge of jargons/complex equations or whatever materialistic parameters that the world seems to associate success with. It requires much much more to elevate to the level where you are in touch with yourself. Otherwise, most of our life is spent seeking series of temporary escapes, ultimately leaving us confused, broken and unthoughtful..
Oh! La game de amour Illude of pretentious detachmentMuch to divulge..The pineful longingsInnate ache of thee companyWholly bewitched by the bearing, The gripped frames, convergence of heartsEnigmatic feeling of completeness, nescience of flow of time..This ardent fondness behind the coolness Waiting to be said or never said..Fancy of a lifetime of affinityTo tread through joys and sorrows,Hand-in-hand, amplifying the laughter, diminishing the woesAh! A paradise of own..
Jo ye itni ghammand mei chalte hainApni takaat ko kisika shoshan samjhte hainNidar hokar jo jee mei aaye wo karte hain Harr baar yahi hota hai Na jaane kitne nirdosh maa baap rote hain, insaaf ki guhaar lagate hainInki ghatiya soch ek masoom ki zindagi tabah kardeti haiFir bhi hairaani ki baat hai ki tabahi ke kisse jada aur insaaf ke kam sunayi padhte hainHarr baar ye dhadhaante hain ki Sakhti ki jayegi Fir kyu ussi desh mei aaj lakhon sadak par insaaf ki ladhai ladh rahe hainKaise sare aam inn darindo ko himmat miljati haiKamzor kaanoon? Kisi takatvar ki panah? Ya desh chalane walon ki bhi samaan soch?Harr dafah masoom par keechad uchala jata hai Apna gunahon ka anzaam ye buzdil kisi aur par thop dete hain..Sharam aani chahiye aise samaaj par Kitna khokhla desh hai..Jahan ye devi ki pooja karte hain, 9 din ka tyoohar manaate hain..Wahin harr aurat ki zindagi inke khauf se paband hojati hai..Kya karenge japani rail, mann ki baat aur unn tamaam befizool ke wadon kaJis desh mei suraksha aur azaadi jaise mamooli cheezein bhi itni ghair mamooli hain..
Jo ye itni ghammand mei chalte hainApni takaat ko kisika shoshan samjhte hainNidar hokar jo jee mei aaye wo karte hain Harr baar yahi tamasha hota hai Inki ghatiya soch ek masoom ki zindagi tabah kardeti haiFir bhi hairaani ki baat hai ki tabahi ke kisse jada aur insaaf ke kam sunayi padhte hainHarr baar ye dhadhaate hain ki Sakhti ki jayegi Fir kyu ussi desh mei aaj lakhon sadak par insaaf ki ladhai ladh rahe hainKaise sare aam inn darindo ko himmat miljati haiKamzor kaanoon? Kisi takatvar ki panah? Ya desh chalane walon ki bhi virakt soch?Harr dafah masoom par keechad uchala jata hai Apna gunahon ka anzaam ye buzdil kisi aur par thop dete hain..Sharam aani chahiye aise samaaj par Kitna khokhla desh hai..Jahan ye devi ki pooja karte hain, 9 din ka tyoohar manaate hain..Wahin harr aurat ki zindagi inke khauf se paband hojati hai..Kya karenge japani rail, mann ki baat aur unn tamaam befizool ke wadon kaJis desh mei suraksha aur azaadi jaise mamooli cheezein bhi itni ghair mamooli hain..
Hairaan karti thi usse logon ki baatein Kis tarah ek dusre ko fasaya karte hainNaa jaane kitne khel khelte hainKya hua agar galat hue Kya hua agar dil ki baat boldi Aise kya faeda, ghut ghut ke jeene ka Ki marne waqt sirf afsoos reh jayeinIsliye shayad iss bheedh se zada, usse khud ki rafaqat se ishq tha..
Kaafi waqt laggya ye samajhne mei ..Jo humare liye 700 crore mei 1 hainhum unke liye mehaz 1 shaam ka shauq hain..Khair aaj naa jaane kaise dil ka zor kam hua, aur akal thikane aagayi..Maano jaise azaadi milgyi iss bewajah ki kashmakash se..Ab zara bhi apna waqt zaya nai karengeIss khayal mei ki wo kabhi toh humari aur rukh karengejisse humari kadar hi naa hoUski humei zaroorat nahi..aaj dil kamyaab hai..Akhir riha hua khayalon ki duniya se..Haan filhal toota hua sa mehsoos hota hai magar shukrguzar hai iss tazurbe ke..Pyaar aur muamale barbaar ke ho toh acha hota haiWarna kadar karne wale ka sirf nuksaan h hota hai..
Lessons learnt in past 1 month
1. Sometimes losing hope is freedom! ABSOLUTE FREEDOM. Especially, when it demands attachment/expression/response from someone other than you. 2. Seeing thing as they are and not kill yourself with 'maybe' / 'someday' / 'could be'3. Silence is a much better option when all you have is annoyance, hurt and disappointment to express 4. Value thyself. Say NO without hesitation and define your own conditions. The right people will come along and somehow find these conditions to be perfect and aligned with theirs.5. Emotionally healthy person looks for genuine relationships and creates one. Emotionally unhealthy person will consume you in their own confusion and despondency. Strive to become emotionally healthy first before putting yourself out there in the dating world. 6. Whatever did not work out for you, it was not yours to begin with. And even if it is, do not beat yourself about it. Keep living and let life flow. 7. You are not in control of externalities but totally in control of your being. Be super hopeful of the opportunities you can create for yourself and things you can give to your self. Be not hopeful (AT ALL) of what others can give you and should think/behave as you.8. Finally, it is all within you. Change your mindset and change your life. Choice is yours to be stuck in the same situation or move on and create a thriving life for yourself. Every experience is 100% created by you. You choose to be sad. You choose to be happy©weirdo08
Nothing more blissful and liberating than the moment when you realize that you were kept away from someone/situation because they were not deserving of you, your intentions and what you had to offer to them. You feel protected. And to make you realize, universe shakes you up in the most horrific and heartbreaking ways. And it keeps doing that until you learn your lesson and take an action. The moment you decide to act, the pain and desperation go away. There is nothing more magical, reassuring and satisfying than that! And yet we forget it each time. All we need is immense self-love, courage, irrational belief in our power to turn around our life, and most importantly train our brain to look for opportunities in adversity. Proudly walk away from anything/anyone which do not lead you anywhere but sadness, self-loath and hopelessness. It is all within us. That's the essence of Buddhism too - Nam Myoho Renge Kyo - A conviction that we have within us at every moment the ability to overcome any problem or challenge that we may encounter in life; the ability to transform any suffering. Human lives possess this power because they are inseparable from the fundamental law that underlies the workings of all life and the universe. It is so profound and real!
The light within you
Unwillingly, frustratingly,Time to time,You will be caught in darkness on this journey of life,Accompanied with great despair, melancholy and self doubt That's the moment when you ought to remember the power within you,To get up and take charge,And bloom like a big bright flower amidst the darkness around you,To realize, as you thinketh, so you areAnd for a brighter and radiant thee, you have go to let the light shine within you! ❤️
The pain of heart
The lump in the throatThe Clinched fists, the burnt faceThe outpouring eyes, The Jittery being,Brimming with sentiments,Without a word on mouthThe struggle to accept the reality, The lost willingness to change it,Gripped in impressions of self-doubt,Hurling abuses to destiny,Questioning the truthiness of the concept of love Drowning in the drain of despair and unfulfillment Fear, so real, Of losing that someoneWith amplified madness To have the courage and believe They were yours, for they were never. The urge to feel normal, assuaging incessantlyAll is well, will be wellBut, why it hurts so much?Probably, the fantasies and dreams you had, All in your head,The idea of the person, not the personPains your heart this muchNo, but why the fantasies?One such evening, they made you believe maybe they adore you tooJoyous and ever so much in loveYou daydream and weave thy happily ever after Knowing little that The other did not love, was never in loveJust to feel good and satisfied,Was one such evening Realization leaves you stupid and lost, That evening, totally perfect, felt so rightThe conversation, the walk, the embraceAll a mock-up, it wasSo many questions in the headLittle can you do to reason the wrong or rightThey say, are you being clingy or weakBut the heart cries in painWhere are the morals and the justice All in vainThey'd be happily going on,You'll too, if not today but somebody, Let go,Accept the apologies, never givenPush to love yourself moreBelieve that you are worthy of loveOf the most precious and kind Which will serve you right Take this a lesson learnt, move onFor if he could not be true to you and the person he loves How could he be true ever. Leave the fantasies behind Reality is far from it!